Creating an Altar to Invite Abundance

Make your altar a hommage to yourself and what is important to you. image: dharma dude

Let the countdown to stretchy waistbands begin!

In most of the Western Hemisphere, we’re only a couple of days away from an afternoon (or two) of food comas, football and naps galore.

Thanksgiving inspires us to be grateful for the abundance that we sometimes take for granted yet permeates our everyday lives.  

People often associate the word Abundance with money, but there are so many other aspects to its meaning.

Abundance can show its beautiful face in so many ways –  the supportive hand of a loved one, that extra hour in bed on the weekends or the amazing feeling that “things just can’t get any better than this.”

If this all sounds like it’s out of reach right now, don’t be too hard on yourself.

One powerful way to fire up the abundance part of your life is to create an altar. While an altar may have religious undertones, it doesn’t have to be that way.

For me, an altar represents a space that is dedicated to an intention, filled with important, symbolic objects that act as reminders. A sacred space for personal goals.

Altars can be created for just about any reason:  Giving thanks, inviting spiritual wisdom, and creative inspiration, or a deeper connection with self. The important thing is your intention while creating your altar.

While you are the only one who can decide on what will move you to create an altar and what to place on it, here are some tips on how to start creating your own personal altar:

1. Investigate why you want to create an altar. This will give you an idea of what types of colors, images or symbols to look out for. It will also help you to set your intention while you are building your special space.

2. Choose objects with intention. Make sure that every single piece is sacred. If you can’t find the element that feels right, wait until you do. Be selective.

3. Choose images that mean something to you. Whether it’s a photo of a loved one (hommage), an iconic figure (inspirational), or a guiding light such as the Dalai Lama, choose images that evoke positive emotions such as happiness and hope.

4. Use your sacred space regularly. Choose a time each day or each week when you sit in your space and allow it to embrace you. There is no better way to strengthen your intentions than to quiet the mind and remind yourself of what is important to you.

5. Maintain your altar. Remember your space has been created with great care and intention. To attain long-lasting results, maintenance is key. Never allow your altar to become a key holder or dust collector. Such things could block it from sharing all of its awesomeness with you.

Challenge: Use the Thanksgiving holiday to start thinking about what kind of altar you would like to create for yourself.

What would you like to work on or progress with?

What images will remind you of these goals?

Where do you see yourself creating this altar?

Writing down your thoughts to some of these simple questions will get you well on your way to building your very own altar. So this year why not think about creating a sacred altar space that will bear fruit long after the turkey and football have been forgotten.

Just Say No To Holiday Stress & Anxiety

So basic, yet so many of of forget the power of it. image: staging.fionaharlowe.com

So basic, yet so many of of forget the power of it. image: staging.fionaharlowe.com

Did anyone get the memo that November is almost over?

Like clockwork, this time of year brings with it a feeling that life is forging full speed ahead. No holds barred. Life on fast forward without a pause button.

Next thing you know, you’re thinking about the holidays which inevitably leads to end of the year and the millions of things you’ve still got to do. Pick your poison: holidays, gift buying, pressure to wrap up end-of-the-year projects, new year new you, accomplishments (or lack of) are all perfect ingredients for emotional roller coasters.

You might be feeling a little anxious right now, which is completely natural. If by any chance you are rocking the perfect peace, go you!

Year after year, we submit ourselves to self anarchy, leaving our inner being no choice but to go bonkers.

Anxiety sneaks into our lives and bodies, causing symptoms such as chest pressure, difficulty sleeping and irritability. It’s like an annual holiday in itself, sans the cause for celebration.

The good news is that there are tried-and-true ways to say “thanks but no thanks” to anxiety to help reach and maintain a balanced state of inner calm during the most turbulent of times.

In mastering these techniques, you will find that you can surpass any challenge thrown your way.

Here are some of my favorite tools and techniques that can help reset your inner self:

1. First things first. 10 minutes of meditation first thing in the morning, before coffee, emails, or social media is a great way to start your day. Kind of like a date with yourself. Isn’t the saying, put yourself first? Although it’s also important to note that meditation is possible any second of the day. So if you can’t have that date in the am, any time is the right time.

2. Commit to yourself. Mastering anything takes time and dedication. This is no different. No one expects you to meditate Buddha style within a week. But you would be wise to practice on a daily basis, roughly around the same time of day. We’re not looking for perfection, we are looking for consistency.

3. Let your thoughts be as they are. Many folks don’t even try meditating because the idea of “not thinking” seems impossible. And in fact, it is. My advice? When a thought comes into your mind, don’t get frustrated. Just gently allow them to flow out as easily as they flowed in. And if other thoughts enter, just keep repeating. Eventually, your thoughts will get the hint and will begin slowing down. They may never completely go away but the beauty at this stage is that you are becoming unattached.

4. Find your own inner Om. Mantras are the perfect way to work out any tensions in your body and mind to help you focus on the now. While Om is a great place to start, there’s nothing more divine than finding that vibration that makes your heart sing. Find one mantra each week to chant until you meet the one that feels like heaven. Here is a great place to start.

5. Affirmations a-plenty. Ever hear of fake it till you make it? A declaration that something is true will do wonders for inner balance. Tell yourself something enough times and you will inevitably believe it to be true. No matter whether you find one or create one yourself, just make sure it sounds and feels amazing. Before you know it, your thoughts will make it so!

What are you waiting for? It’s the perfect time to start strutting your just-say-no-to-stress stuff. With a little practice and dedication, you’ll end the year looking like a champ and feeling like a million bucks.

Signs Are Everywhere – Just Look For Them!

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What’s that leaky faucet trying to tell you? image: apartment therapy

My kitchen faucet broke last week. It just keeled over.

I was grumbling to have to add this task to my eternal to do list until a friend asked me, what does that mean in Feng Shui?

Great question! I sometimes forget that I can Feng Shui my own Feng Shui.

It turned out that my broken faucet was in my Benefactors/Helpful people section of my home.

Hmmm, I wondered what this could mean. I thought that perhaps I should be paying more attention to possible “help” I could welcome into my life. It was true that I had recently been isolating myself in a whirlwind of work.

Then it started.

My coach (yes, I have a coach too!) reached out to me that same day to welcome me into a 10-week amazing program. Gratis.

2 days later, a friend invited me to a 3 day training. 30 lovely hours. All for free.

3 days later, a colleague invites me into a conversation for a business opportunity.

Oh glory day!

I said yes to every opportunity.

Align this with the door to the room to find your Benefactors area. Image: Feng Shui Creative

Align this with the door to the room to find your Benefactors area. Image: Feng Shui Creative

In that moment, I realized what had happened to my faucet. It literally broke because it couldn’t handle all the goodness that was gushing through. By not paying attention to the opportunities around me, my energy was getting all stopped up and was not allowed to flow correctly.

Less than one week from this realization, my world just started swimming with amazing benefactors. Which led to some really powerful insight. Instead of grumbling (a natural human tendency) when something breaks down for you, how can you turn it around and see the opportunity in it?

Think of the Universe like that prankster, who just happens to act like an older sibling. You think they’re out to get you, but you know in your heart-of-hearts they’ve got your back.

The Universe can’t just speak up and tell you to find your way, so it comes up with all these quirky little ways to show you. Your job? Pay attention to the signs.

Sometimes the signs are packaged in bad news or unplanned changes. Sometimes it comes in the quiet moments when you let yourself relax and reflect. What makes it fun is you just never know!

The important lesson is learning to see every experience with a new set of eyes. To see that every situation (good and not-so-good) is there to help you grow or learn. Once you see it for what it is, things like leaky faucets become more of an investigation or a game. Look out Sherlock Holmes! See how that just became awesome?

So where are the leaky faucets in your life? How are they manifesting in your home? Could it be that those tedious to-dos are actually lined with golden opportunities?

You be the judge. Chances are, they just might be.

 

 

 

 

Double Your Personal Success With Mirrors

Adding mirrors can be your secret super power. image: lush home

Adding mirrors can be your secret super power. image: lush home

Here’s the thing you need to know about mirrors.

Mirrors are a BIG DEAL. In Feng Shui, mirrors are what aspirin is to doctors, often used in simple remedies for many things. But it’s much more profound than that.

The mirrors in your home are a mirror of your life.

Look around. How’s your home-sweet-home looking these days?

Chances are, if you’ve been giving your home love and attention, it will deliver the same.

If you’ve taken the time to decorate with your full attention and intention, you probably find that you feel pretty good. Sure there are things that need tending to, but overall life feels just right. Glass half full.

On the other hand, you may find yourself walking into your dark and cluttered space, and that will probably have you feeling a bit anxious or irritable. Having to step over piles of things usually creates that unnecessary feeling of panic. Glass? I don’t even know where the glass is!

The good news is that (drum roll) mirrors are loaded with power!

Mirrors have the ability to energize your space and double the power of intention.

Here are some favorite ways to tap into the magical powers of mirrors:

1. Transform narrow entryways or hallways. Mirrors are the great masters of illusion. To give a space a more expansive feeling (especially if it’s an area that you are working on like career or relationships), find that area that feels a little cramped and hang a mirror in there. You’ll be fooled. But in a good way. When you feel grand, so does your life.

Display your mirrors while having them work for you. image: diana212m.blogspot.com

2. Lighten dark, stagnant nooks. Have a corner that’s a little on the dark side or feels stagnant? Mirrors symbolize active energy and movement, so bring a mirror in with very specific intentions and watch the light bounce around and lift your spirits. You’ll feel lighter (pun intended) and more energetic in minutes.

image: homemydesign.com

Brighten up that gloomy corner. image: homemydesign.com

3. Double up on the good stuff. If there’s any part of your life that you really want to focus on and need some extra help getting there, use a mirror. Realizing you need a little more personal growth in your life? Create a tray with plants and books and watch your Self Knowledge sky rocket. (Purchase: Blue Mirrored Glass Trays / West Elm). Using mirrors this way is indeed very simple, but it works.

Double the power with reflective trays. image: west elm

Double the power with reflective trays. image: west elm

4. Water where water is needed. If you discover that you’ve got areas of your home that need movement or energy, put up a mirror. A representation of the element of water, mirrors are a great way to keep things flowing and balance your overall chi. When your chi is in balance, your world will feel exactly as it should be.

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Double your water element with a mirror. image: decorpad.com

5. Keep it whole. When hanging up your mirrors, make sure that you hang it up at a level where you can still see your head. That’s practicing safe energy – how would you feel each time you looked at yourself and you didn’t see your head? Also buy mirrors that are clear and undistorted. You want your life and your vision to have the same qualities.

Clear, unfragmented mirrors are best. image: oghhk.com

Clear, unfragmented mirrors are best. image: oghhk.com

Take a little tour of your home and walk through your home with a fresh set of eyes. What areas are in need of a little more light? You know what to do. Grab a mirror and get to hanging.

Need more guidance on where and how? Feel free to contact me for a more personalized look at your space.

Wk 3 Cleanse – The Final Countdown

We have arrived. The sweet smell of success!

We have arrived. The sweet smell of success!

Guess who’s made it to the end of her cleanse?!? (One guess)

Yeah okay, so I’ve got 4 more days, but work with me here. It’s so close I can taste it.

The Final Countdown: If you want to indulge me musically, click this link and turn the volume up (or down if you are at work or at the doctor’s office.)

Cleanses have been part of my life for the past two years, and I’m happy to say that it gets easier every time. Not because I’ve stopped loving those delicious goodies, but because I realize I won’t wither away if I go sans a cafe au lait for a few weeks.

Fact: If you do anything for 21 days, it becomes habit. 

A cleanse is no exception. The thought of eliminating sugar and caffeine seems almost blood curling at first, right? But once you’ve hit week 2, you can look chocolate straight in the eye and say, “Not today chocolate. Not today.”

Seriously, a cleanse doesn’t mean that you can’t sneak a bag of Terra Chips (of the non-gluten potato variety) once or twice. Just pick your binges wisely. Then eat the heck out of them, with full joy.

I love that moment of clarity right at the end of a cleanse. You know the one I’m talking about. When your feet are pointed at that finish line. When it all becomes crystal clear.

Some things that became crystal clear during these past 3 weeks:

1) We eat too much. This cleanse has reminded me that I eat much more food than I actually need to consume on a daily basis. I normally wouldn’t admit that out loud but it’s quite fitting for the event.

2) Homemade food is awesome. I’m happy to report that I’ve cooked almost every single meal that has gone in my mouth in the past 3 weeks. (Go me!) You New Yorkers know how tough that can be when social calendars revolve around: drinking (alcohol), eating (Mexican) or convening over hot beverages (slow-drip coffee).

3) Crock pot stews need/should be shared.  Omg. I realized that I was able to eat more crock pot stews than any normal person is capable of. Good thing they were all yummy.

4) We are capable of anything we put our minds (and bodies) to. It may feel daunting to start a challenge, it may even feel tougher in the thick of it, but it eventually gets easier as you stick it out…with your dancing backup team of course (see last week’s post to know what the heck I’m talking about).

Crock pots aside, I made it guys. I MADE IT. And it feels amazing!

With one more cleanse completed, it’s time to start my reintroduction to “Life”. I’ll slowly be reincorporating things back into my diet, carefully paying attention to how each item affects my body and life’s equilibrium.

Balance, as in everything in Feng Shui, is the name of the game. A cleanse is just a metaphor about recognizing and adjusting patterns, not crashing and burning them. In this case, it’s a chance to prove to yourself that you’re not a slave to the [insert your vice here], but you can sure as heck enjoy one! 

While I’m officially done on Sunday evening Nov 2nd, I will probably be ending a day early to attend my friends’ Day of the Dead party. Breaking my cleanse early - why not? I can’t think of a better way to celebrate the end of an era (or cleanse) and to move onward to new beginnings. We’ll be eating, you guessed it, Mexican. How appropriate!

Wk 2: Fall Cleanse – Finding Your Oneness

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We would never let him walk alone, so why should you? image: data1.whicdn.com

The other day I was waiting for the train and noticed a child aimlessly roaming around. Where were his parents?? I saw what might be a parent, but that person was in full distraction mode. Instantly I felt myself become hyper aware of the child, keeping my laser focus on him. Kinda like Professor X.

I didn’t judge. I was so focused on his well-being that nothing else mattered.

The best part was when I became aware of my surroundings, I noticed that everyone else was incredibly focused on him too. Their “guardian” mode was ON. Without words, we all became “momentary parents” on that subway platform. Nodding and smiling at each other once the child was under his parent’s scope again.

Total strangers united as ONE in that moment.

It made me realize that in this whole big world filled with actions and distractions, at our core and in our essence, we are all united. We all want the same things.

We all want want to feel like we’re a part of something bigger.

I couldn’t have asked for a better time for this reminder as I am full blown into the second week of my cleanse.

This mid-way part of my cleanse has been challenging. I get all Pavlovian when I see a latte and have been counting down days to my flaky almond croissant. But I keep moving forward.

What gets me through it all? My backup. My team of eternal cheerleaders. Reminding me that I can get there, that I’m awesome, and that just at the end of the tunnel, there’s a delicious cup of hot cocoa with my name on it!

What’s that got to do with you?

We’re all in this together.

I want you to sit and think about who your backup team is. Who you can count on anytime, day or night. Phone calls or in-person, doesn’t matter.

Who are the people who you can reach out to when you’re on that rollercoaster and don’t know how to get the heck off?

If you need some help in that department, focus on your Benefactors / Helpful People area in your space. How’s that looking? If it’s a little sparse, add a healthy plant in there and make sure it’s well lit. If the area is cluttered with things that are of no use, really focus on what you love, what items are helpful to you and release the rest.

Get that area of your space in tip-top shape so you can start feeling like you can face whatevs comes your way. Once you’re all done, celebrate privately with a little dance (that’s the 70s dancing queen coming out in me but you can do what feels natural to you) and then celebrate again with your backup team. Now do the same for your back up. Rinse and repeat.

Doesn’t it feel great knowing that you can make it through anything, even three weeks worth of cleansing? You’re a Rockstar.

Stay tuned for the home stretch of the cleanse next week!

Wk 1: Fall Cleanse – Your Piles vs You

Do you have a pile like this lurking somewhere in your home?

Do you have a pile like this lurking somewhere in your home?

Being a Feng Shui Consultant doesn’t make me virtuous nor immune to clutter.

Last week I found myself staring at a pile of things that were – guess where – smack in the middle of my abundance area. A leaning tower of things I needed to get fixed or donate and all the in-betweens. Just sitting there. Mucking up my abundance and revealing oh-so-much.

It was during this stare-down that I realized that this needed to be dealt with. Immediately.

Why the urgency? Because where we tend to pile up stuff is usually where we need to take a look at in our lives.

So take a look around. Where’s your pile?

It isn’t a coincidence that I noticed my pile this week. It just happens to coincide with the start of my 3-week Fall cleanse where the first challenge is to be vigilant, evaluating and weeding out big things, in a big way. When figuring out what may be keeping you stuck in an area of your life, you want to be sure to look at everything you can.

To get an accurate picture of what is going on in your life, you must use your outer world to peer into your inner world.

Here’s what I mean. When you use the handy-dandy Feng Shui tool called the Bagua, you can see what sections of your home reflect the specific areas of your life. Cool and scary right?

Piles or clutter usually mean that something is indeed stuck and needs your attention. So here’s what you’re gonna do. Take your handy bagua tool below and line it up with your front door, facing into your space. All the sections in your life will reveal themselves in your floorplan. Then when looking at your sectioned floorplan and your piles – nope, I didn’t forget about your piles – ask yourself the following important questions:

  • Beginnings/Family – If things are piling up here, ask yourself, am I having a hard time getting things started? Are there issues in my family that need to be addressed? What can I do to “jump start” the energy in this section?
  • Wealth/Fortunes/Blessings – This doesn’t only mean money. Yes, money is always a plus so let’s discuss it here. Are you paying enough attention to your money or do you ignore it and close your eyes to it because it makes you too nervous? What about other parts of your life? Does it feel abundant?
  • Recognition/Fame/Reputation – How are you seen in the world? In your workplace? Do you have a good or not-so-great reputation?

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  • Relationships/Partnerships – How is the health of the relationships in your life? Landlords count too, so pay your rent on time.
  • Creativity/Joy/Completion – This one gets overlooked alot for obvious and not so obvious reasons. How happy are you? Do you do things that bring joy into your everyday life? Do you start projects but have trouble completing them?
  • Benefactors/Helpful People/Travel - Do you have the support in your life that you would like or need? Are you able to ask for help when you need it? Are you willing to travel for what you need to do in life or are you travelling too much?
  • Career/Path in Life/Opportunities – Are you on track with where you want to be in your career? Are enough opportunities coming your way? Is your path in life clear?
  • Knowledge/Self Cultivation - How well do you know yourself? Is there any skills that you need to improve upon? What self-care practices do you have in place?

The first steps to getting unstuck is cultivating awareness and taking action. Looking at and figuring out what is going on (awareness) and then doing something about it (action) are crucial in getting you closer to your goals.

After you have answered these questions, I want you to figure out what you are ready to change and/or let go of in your home AND in yourself. Eeps! Then I want you to take one step, just one action step this week.

As for me, I’m in my third day of cleansing. I am aware that coffee, alcohol and dairy make me feel icky so they are now a thing of the past. Don’t get me wrong, I still dream of lattes and merlot, but remind myself that these 3 short weeks will reveal to me much more than I can imagine at this moment.

Oh and my abundant pile o’ crapola? That corner now houses a meditation cushion (insert happy, peaceful emoticon here).

Stay tuned next week for what’s next in the inner/outer cleanse!

Getting Ready For Greatness: Fall Cleanse 2014

It all starts with the first step. image: bemoremagazine.com

It all starts with the first step. image: bemoremagazine.com

We can no longer be in denial. Fall is here folks! Sure, it’s time to say goodbye to sunshiney weekends and rooftop beverages, but how excited are we for scarf and hot cider weather?

I’ve got my list of seasonal must-dos which includes apple picking trips upstate, a hay ride and a Fall Cleanse with my pals at Olo Acupuncture. Yes, official countdown to this year’s Fall Cleanse has begun. October 13th, I see you, and I’m READY.

Seasonal cleanses are one of the best tools to get ready for Greatness.

Cleansing is like starting a school year with a perfectly organized binder and freshly sharpened pencils (yes, I am a nerd). It sounds a bit strange and you may be asking, “How does what I put in my mouth affect my success?”

It’s natural that from time to time, that we find ourselves with that blah kind of feeling. Decisions seem impossibly big. The days seem incredibly long and you start to feel like you are being dragged along by your daily duties. You might even try to spruce things up a bit by rearranging or decluttering your home or office. A new plant? Some colorful pillows? But the feeling lingers.

While clearing out your outer world is an excellent starting point my fellow Feng Shui-ers, we’ve got to get in there and declutter your inner as well. It’s all about aligning the two. Think Karate Kid “Wax on. Wax off.” Yin and yang. My life’s mission: To help you create a harmonious balance between your two worlds – your inner and outer worlds.

We need to regularly cleanse our bodies so that we are clearing out all the processed gunk that keeps it from running perfectly. The gunk sneaks in through that innocent glass of Merlot or mac n cheese and creates that bloated, unmotivated and lethargic feeling. And you know what happens when you take on more than you can handle. Shut down. Complete stagnation – physically, emotionally, and psychologically. That’s when you become too tired to fold the laundry or cook a healthy meal for yourself. See the connection to your inner world to the outer world?

Decluttering your inner world is a sure way to start shaking off that overwhelming feeling of excess in all parts of your life and make room for amazing energy just waiting to get in. Greatness can’t get in if you’re stuffed to the brim, right? A cleanse is a great way to reset and awaken your body so that all of your bits and pieces are working properly and in harmony. Doesn’t a day full of clarity, focus and intention sound amazing? More energy, less grouch. End result: feeling AWESOME.

You know you want it. Detox salad - bad name, yummy taste. image: ohsheglows.com

You know you want it. Detox salad – bad name, yummy taste. image: ohsheglows.com

Other cultures who are in the habit of eating healthier on a regular basis are also some of the happiest people on the planet. Look at the Kiwis, um, I mean New Zealanders. While we’ve progressed leaps and bounds to get to a place of cleaner eating, we are still a work in progress. I’m not saying quit cold turkey and ditch your morning Joe, but it’s nice to give your body a break from time to time.

Needless to say, I cannot waaaait to kick off the Fall Cleanse 2014 with Olo! I invite you to join me as I kickstart my body and get ready for all things great. Are you ready to discover YOUR Greatness? If so and you are ready for your own cleanse, know that we are in this together. I welcome all questions, recommendations, and support. Let’s get our cleanse on!

What’s your favorite way to cleanse? Share your thoughts below!

Oh Sunlight, Where Art Thou?

It doesn't matter how old a space is, light can always stream in. image: the atlantic

It doesn’t matter how old a space is, light can always stream in. image: the atlantic

Some of you are beginning to get a bit freaked out that the sun is starting to set at 7:30pm.

No more summer cocktails on the patio or fresh-air activities with the kids after work. This darkness makes us want to make a beeline to our caves (a.k.a beautifully Feng Shui-ed homes).

I actually didn’t even pay any attention to this seasonal phenomena until a friend mentioned it. Don’t hate me, but I’m one of those people who is barely effected by the weather. Sunny is always good, cloudy and rainy is romantic and snowy is fun! Ok, you can hate me now. Which got me thinking - different people have different lighting quotients.

Let’s take a look at how you can introduce more light not only in your physical outer space but also to your internal home - your mind, body and spirit – as we approach the darker seasons.

S.A.D. or Seasonal Affective Disorder, is very real. When you are affected, the winter months you may experience severe lethargy, debilitating depression and sleep issues.

Here are some ways to help alleviate the dampening effects of the season:

1) Early bird gets the worm – Get out earlier in the day to take advantage of natural light. Go for a run, take a walk, just get outside earlier to literally charge your battery.

2) Lamps are your friends – If getting out early is not possible or enough, you can try Light therapy which involves using a lamp to help compensate for the shorter days. Of course as a designer, I found this beautiful lamp from Kubo. There are many other lamps that are smaller and less expensive but if you can afford it, why not splurge and start uplifting your energy even before you turn the lamp on?

Give me light, but damn, make it look good. image: electronichealing.co.uk

Give me light, but damn, make it look good. image: electronichealing.co.uk

3) Lighten your palette - Change your dark sheets, bedcover and curtains to lighter colors such as white, beige or pastels. Stop wearing black and defy all fashion code by wearing white or lighter colors. I know it sounds counter intuitive but visual references are very powerful and you can trick your mind into feeling lighter by “seeing” lighter.

4) Invite Light into your Inner World – As a Feng Shui Coach, I am always seeking to align your inner and outer worlds. Bringing light into your physical space can be as easy as buying a lamp on Amazon. But, bringing light into your inner world can be more challenging. One way to lighten up your inner world is to embrace your darkness by adding in love. Renowned author and speaker Michael Ellsberg generously shares his insight on this matter in his recording Loving the Unlovable. It’s a longerish recording (almost 2 hours long), but commit to listen to his words of wisdom, because you will realize that when you love the unlovable, “love becomes the overpowering note or dominant flavor.” By allowing the dark to be present, allows love and light to naturally flow in. I touch upon this idea in this blog post, Finding the Comfort in the Discomfort.

So go ahead and start doing all the fun colder weather activities - drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows, meeting friends by fireplaces – but when you feel the darkness creeping in, know you have choices for both your inner and outer worlds. The light is always there, it’s just for us to uncover. Now pass the marshmallows, will ya?

Used, Inherited or Saturated Objects

Love these pieces but whose energy is attached to them?

It’s officially Autumn and we naturally want to spend more time indoors, feeling the need to nest and finally getting those pesky home projects started.

That means it may be time to decide what to do with that stuff that’s piling up - like the sad doggie painting that was a gift from Aunt Sally or the antique lamp you inherited from your ex.

If you’re having trouble deciding whether to toss it or keep it, let me help you make a decision. 

It all boils down to energy. Anti-woo woo people, stay with me. According to theories in quantum physics – everything, including people and objects, is made up of energy. In Feng Shui, every objects holds an energetic charge so it’s important to pay attention to what the energy of a particular object means specifically to you.

When making the decision about what to keep, ask yourself two questions:

1) Where’d ya get that?  Ideally, you will need to find why the previous owners got rid of the object as the object will most likely be holding the energy of the last person who had possession of it. If the painting was Aunt Sally’s and she lovingly gave it away because she got married (yay Aunt Sally!) and didn’t have room for the painting, you’re alright and you don’t need to read any further (although you may want to keep reading since I’m sure you have other stuff besides Fido’s portrait that needs sorting through). If you inherited your antique lamp from a nasty breakup with your ex, its energy may be a bit off, so proceed to question #2. If the object came to you via craigslist and ebay and you don’t know its origins, also move on to question #2.

2) Toss it or Transform it?  Ask yourself, when I look at this object, how does it make me feel? If the answer is guilt, sadness or any other feeling you don’t want to have, you have 2 options: Either release it lovingly or try to change the energy. If you decide to release the object, thank it, put it on the curb with the intention that you are creating space for great things to come into your life and that someone else will be beyond joyful to receive this object. See how we craftily changed the energy for the next owner in the release? If you decide to transform the energy, you can give the object some energetic loving and clear its charge with smudge sticks, bell ringing, aromatherapy (lavender or citrus are great choices) or crystals such as smokey quartz.

So now you have your Autumn weekend plans - when you’re not apple picking that is. Walk around your space and decide what to toss and what to transform. It’s easier than you think. You can even do yourself a favor by asking these questions before bringing objects into your home. Always remember, a clutter-free and clear home is a happy home! Happy Autumn Clearing!